a friend of mine posted a link to a blog post regarding a recent "public policy polling" that found 46% of people who live in mississippi (MS) think that interracial marriage should be illegal. yes, illegal. on the poll's website, a respondent gave her reasoning for why she believes this:
"I believe God made us a different color for a reason and should be honored by not marrying outside of the race that God picked for me, however the color of one's skin does not make him/her better than another color."
what?! and, really??
as someone in an interracial marriage, it boggles my mind that this is how some people truly think, especially in this day and age. when i first started dating my husband, a few acquaintances i knew remarked about me being with a "white boy," as if pointing it out would make a difference. there were times i even remember being stared at in the store, usually from "same-race" couples. i didn't understand it. i typically didn't even notice until i could feel the looks, their eyes boring into me for reasons i don't care to know.
my husband and i have discussed this many times in the past. when we look at each other, we see the people we are, and it's as simple as that. instead of seeing someone with hazel eyes or dark hair, i see a man who is good and kind and honest. he says the same thing about the way he views me.
and really, that is all we need to know. there's no need to justify our relationship to anyone, especially those that don't know a thing about it. there's no need to even go there.
or to mississippi, for that matter.
coming from interracial parents, i suppose i thought i was well prepared for being in an interracial relationship. to be honest, i find myself naturally unattracted to black males, not saying if the right one ever came along i would judge, but i digress.
ReplyDeletebeing in my second (now) relationship with a white guy, i realize how much people do notice. i dont mind if people notice. i mind if people judge. like obviously we have no issue with each other so why should a stranger have a problem with us? i like when people ask us questions because especially when coming from a different culture(so to speak) it can be a very interesting dynamic. i invite those informative conversations. i just tell myself these days that people stare because they wonder what kind of love we must have to cross cultural boundaries and fight opposition :)
i really like your perspective on this! it totally opened up another way of seeing it for me. thanks. :)
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